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Lee Muller's avatar

I used to be in the naive camp that believed everyone should get along with everyone ... until around 35, when I saw how some people just used other people and situations solely for their own gain. It was the first time I decided, no I can't get along with everyone nor do I want to. Soon after, I also learned there are certain battles that cannot be won. You can argue about something you know 100% as fact until the cows come home, but in the end, you realized things escalated to where it wasn't worth it, saw sides of a person you never knew existed or could exist, and that's when I learned the important skill of knowing when "not to engage" and to "pick one's battles carefully". It's not out of laziness, but recognizing who you're dealing with and why. It's one of the most important skills I've garnered and has saved me much stress, disappointment, and heartache. Cheers Jessica you're doing great and thank you for all your work.

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Warrior Mom's avatar

knowing when 'not to engage' is a place I find myself in, in more situations than I am comfortable with. its almost like I get a pang of guilt by accepting that most people are willingly in the dark and wish to remain there. its frustrating and sad.

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